Slut Shaming in the Muslim Community

Slut Shaming in the Muslim Community

Slut Shaming in the Muslim Community has recently become a huge problem. For those of you who’ve never heard of the term, you might be wondering what exactly slut shaming is.

It’s making someone, in this case women, feel guilty about the way they dress or choose to express themselves, by calling them derogatory names or saying offensive things which are supposed to guilt them into changing the way they dress.

For example, “how can you be a Muslim if you wear clothes like that?” Or, “don’t you know that that’s not real hijab?”

In the Muslim community, slut shaming usually revolves all around hijab. Whether you wear it or don’t wear it. And even how you wear it.

Pictures like the one above are abundant on the internet and are used as a method to encourage girls to wear hijab and boost the morale of those who choose to. Pictures like these don’t take the feelings of those who don’t wear hijab into account, as it equates them to uncovered and dirty lollipops that attract flies. The flies, in this case, representing men. It makes girls who don’t wear hijab feel bad about themselves, and is supposed to shame them into wearing hijab.

Slut shaming is NEVER okay. Whether a girl chooses to wear hijab or not, it is not your job to tell her how to dress, whether you’re a guy or a girl, whether you’re a hijabi or not.

Posters like this exalt hijab as the only way to practice modesty and the only way to practice Islam. They do not take into account a woman’s character or the way she may conduct herself. It simply points to the hijab, one garment, as the be all, end all way to practice modesty. And that’s not the case.

Many girls who do choose to wear hijab are quick to point to the fault of others, because they somehow think of themselves as being morally superior to others. They think that because they have donned the hijab, they are exempt from God’s judgement themselves and can dole out His judgement as officers of the Haram police. But remember: only Allah has the right to judge. Perhaps you don’t agree with the way a sister chooses to wear her hijab or the fact that she doesn’t. But it isn’t really up to you to pass judgement, either publicly or privately. You don’t know, her heart may be purer than yours, even though she chooses not to wear hijab. So don’t judge.

There is a constant struggle of being objectified by what you wear, and this case of slut shaming in the Muslim community is no different. It objectifies women into two categories, hijabi and non-hijabis, good Muslim women and bad Muslim women, modest women and immodest women. But things are rarely are simple or as black and white.

As Muslim woman we need to be supportive to one another. If we all start shaming one another, then how will we be able to create a community in which we are able to grow and flourish?

So let’s all try to be a little kinder to one another. Because in the end, you’ll end up hoping that Allah is kinder to you in forgiving your faults.

With love.

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