guide to friendship

Today’s Muslim Girl’s Guide topic is friendship. Many of you might be thinking that you already know how to be a good friend, but today’s guide to friendship will be talking about some of the pitfalls many of us face when trying to be good friends.

So let’s take a look at some of these pitfalls so that we can become better friends.

Backbiting

So many of us engage in this, many times without even realising. We think that if we’re friends with two people, it’s okay to share what one of them told us to the other. Don’t do it. Regardless of whether the two people are friends or not, don’t share things that your friends have told you to other people, friends or not. You wouldn’t like it if things you told your friends started circulating without you knowing it, so don’t engage it.

So much drama starts this way, especially since girls tell one another not to tell anyone else what they’re about to tell them, and then that person goes ahead and shares it anyway. Regardless of whether the person tells you that it’s a secret, don’t share. No matter how good of a friend the other person is to you and no matter the fact that you tell them not to share, the story will probably get out and it will be revealed that you spilled the beans. So don’t ruin a friendship by spreading stories and just keep them to yourself.

And if someone tries to share something with you about a mutual acquaintance, don’t pass it on any further.

Jealousy

Sometimes we’re friends with someone, yet we can’t help but covet their clothes, their accessories, their family, their friends, etc. This can poison a friendship.One one hand, you claim that they are your friend and you love them, yet on the other hand you long for what they have. Be content with what you have and don’t be jealous. It will somehow seep into your relationship and affect your actions in how you interact with you friend, so try and nip it in the bud.

Not everyone has everything, so don’t get caught up in what they have that you don’t. Be thankful for what you do have.

Boy Trouble

This is probably one of the biggest pitfalls of friendship for girls growing up nowadays. Regardless of how you choose to interact with guys, you can’t deny that many friendships have been ruined by girls fighting over boys.

It’s an age old saying, but boys really will come and go. Your friends are there to stay, so don’t get caught up in who got caught looking at a guy or who has a crush on a guy. It may seem like a big deal, but it’s not worth ruining your friendship over so just leave it.

As girls, we often get caught up in categorizing our friends. She’s just an acquaintance, but she’s a friend, whereas she’s my best friend. Naturally you’ll be closer with some people more than others, but don’t get caught up in giving your friends titles. Treat all your friends equally, and with kindness. Buy gifts for them. Introduce them to your family. Love them.

We often spend more time with friends than our family in this day and age, and so it’s important to choose our friends carefully since we tend to become like those we spend the most time with. If you want amazing friends, be one yourself and treat them how you would like to be treated.

Hope you found this guide on friendship useful. Keep smiling, beautiful girls!

With love.