Being kind is an art that has been forgotten. Many of us are so caught up in our busy, hectic lives that we forget to take time to be kind and help others. We are so caught up in ourselves: our life, our struggles, our problems, our time, our money, etc. We forget that others are going through similar things. We expect kindness from others, but don’t think about spreading a little cheer ourselves. We are selfish and have forgotten the joys of making others feel good.
So take a moment to read these Keys to Kindness and realise that all is takes is one simple step to be kinder.
We all love to hear compliments but we can be a bit stingy when it comes to giving them out. Think about that time when someone complimented you on something big or small. Remember how good it felt to be recognized for something. Do the same for someone else.
We all get caught up in ourselves so much that we often fail to see the good deeds and actions of others. Open your eyes and look around you. Maybe your colleague had a great idea that didn’t get used. Maybe your brother cooked an amazing meal. Maybe the cashier at the coffee shop is always smiling every morning. Maybe your friend is looking especially pretty today. Let them know! It doesn’t have to be anything huge, it could be something small. Don’t be flippant about it and pick something random, but really think about it and let the other person know. It’ll make them feel great about themselves. And you’ll end up feeling good too.
PLEASE AND THANK YOU
Another forgotten art! Manners have sadly been forgotten in our busy world, but they definitely shouldn’t be. We often take for granted the things others do for us, and don’t even thank them for it. This is especially true of how many of us treat those around us. We are polite to the drive-through attendant at the restaurant window, but speak to our mothers and fathers with disrespect.
Mind your manners! No matter big or small, always say please or thank you, no matter who you’re speaking to. It shows respect to the other person and makes a big difference.
You might have heard of random acts of kindness already. They are a wonderful way to spread kindness in the world, especially if you do them to strangers. You shouldn’t expect anything in return except the feeling of contentment as you do something nice for someone.
This could include paying for someone else’s coffee/meal in a restaurant, letting someone go ahead of you in line, helping a pregnant lady load her cart at the grocery store, help an old man cross the street, etc. Random acts of kindness aren’t only for strangers! Your friends and family are just as deserving of your kindness as anyone else. Make dinner for your family one night, fill up your parents’ car with gas, buy your siblings their favourite treat, surprise your best friend with flowers, etc.
Our busy lives make us short-tempered often and we run low on patience. We get irritated when others are impatient with us, but don’t realise that we do the same to others. No one is perfect. We all make mistakes. Think of the way you’d like to be treated if you made a mistake or didn’t know you were talking about. Would you like to be snapped at or spoken to rudely? Probably not.
So the next time you’re speaking to someone in a service position, be patient and be kind. Just relax. You will get the job done, whatever you’re doing, when it’s meant to be done. So take it easy and don’t snap at the other person. They’re just doing the best they can.
FORGIVE AND FORGET
Easier said than done, but so important! Everyone has bad days, even you, which makes us a bit short-tempered and impatient. Think of how you would like to be treated on those days and do the same with others.
So maybe the cashier short-changed you, or someone stole your parking spot at the last second, or the girl bumped into you and didn’t say sorry, etc. Just forgive and forget it. Don’t go out to take revenge. Just move on! Give others the benefit of the doubt, and don’t dwell on it.
Being kind isn’t difficult. Treat others how you’d like to be treated: with respect and warmth. Do good things for other people with a clean heart and conscience. Don’t expect anything in return. Don’t do it for the sake of showing off or impressing anyone. If there’s anyone you want to impress, let it be God. He’s the only one who can reward you for it.
There’s so much darkness in the world so if we all did a little bit to spread some warmth, the world would be a brighter place. So be kind!