Who is the most important person in this world that it’s important to have a good relationship with? Hint: it’s not your future husband, but instead your mom! Yup, that’s right girls! It’s so important to build a strong relationship with your mom.
But so many of us fail with this. We take our moms for granted (this applies to guys and girls) and get annoyed by the things our moms say or do. We grow up and think that we’re smarter than our parents, and that we don’t need them anymore. But that couldn’t be further from the truth! Our moms need us and we need them.
You probably know the countless hadiths that stress upon the importance of respecting and honouring your mother. Many of us know that paradise lies under the feet of our mother, and this means that we cannot reach Allah and His glorious paradise unless we honour and respect our mother.
Many of us are willing to offer our mom respect, but it can sometimes seem impossible to understand her! No matter how old or young you are, your mom lived through a different time and sometimes it can seem like she’s from another world. So how do you go about building a strong relationship with her? Find out now!
Talk to her
It sounds really basic, but it’s so important! Seriously though: when was the last time you spoke to your mom? Really had a heart to heart?
Take the time to really talk to your mom; tell her what’s going on in your life, what you’re struggling with, your dreams, your hopes, your fears, everything! Your mom is probably dying to hear what’s going on with you, so share everything and don’t hold back. Again, it can sometimes seem like your mom won’t understand what you’re going through or your problems, but that’s not the case. Even though she lived through a different time than you, she went through the same things, and can appreciate your struggles
Take time our of your busy schedule at least once a week to have a proper conversation with her, where you share everything that’s going on with you. Everybody’s busy but it’s so important to keep your mom in the loop. You’ll find your relationship getting stronger by just doing this.
LISTEN TO HER
This goes hand in hand with the first one, and it’s also equally important. We all get so caught up in our own lives that we forget that our mom has a life too! Regardless of whether you’re still in school and living with her or if you’re married and have moved out, make the time to have a conversation with your mom where you both get to share what’s going on.
Moms are often so focused on their kids, and it can be so easy to just go on and on about yourself. And while she probably loves to hear all about you, take the time to ask her about her day, how her work was, or what she’s been doing these days. You’ll probably find she’s dying to have someone to talk to and you can become closer to her by just listening to her. Even if you can’t relate to some of her problems or challenges, you’ll find that your mom will still appreciate and enjoy being able to talk to you. Not just like a daughter, but like a friend!
HELP HER OUT
Regardless of whether your mom stays at home or works, she’s got a lot on her plate. All moms do! So take the initiative to help her out with some of her load. It could be household chores, running errands, or just taking care of yourself- so she doesn’t have to! If you’ve got siblings, coax them into pitching in too so that your mom doesn’t have to be running around all the time.
She’ll appreciate anything and everything you do to make things easier for her, so start thinking of the ways you can help her out!
ASK HER FOR ADVICE
As ancient as your mom might seem to you sometimes, she knows a lot! Believe it or not, she’s been through a lot of what you’re going through right now, whether it’s school related, family related, health related, or boy related. She has a lot more experience than you, with everything and is much more qualified to give you advice than any of your friends. Why is that? Because she has the added benefit of knowing you your whole life! So she actually knows what’s best for you most of the time.
Not only will you probably get some sound advice about whatever dilemma you’re facing, but you’ll show your mom that you want to know and that you care about what she thinks. It’s a way to show her respect, and she’ll probably be so happy that you decided to ask her.
SPEND TIME WITH HER
Bonding with your mom doesn’t have to only happen during intense heart-to-hearts! You can build and strengthen your relationship with your mom by both doing things you enjoy.
This could encompass anything from going shopping, getting a massage, exercising or going on walks together, taking a class together, learning something from her, or even reading the same book. It doesn’t have to be educational or healthy for it to be fruitful to your relationship. As long as you’re both doing something you enjoy together, you’re building a strong relationship!
So many of us take the relationships we’re born with for granted. We work so hard on building good friendships and even marriages, but often forget about nurturing the relationship with our parents, especially our moms. We take their presence for granted and think that they’ll be around forever. But they definitely won’t.
So don’t wait for mother’s day to show your mom how much you love and appreciate her. Work on building a strong relationship of respect, love, and friendship with her.
Hope you beautiful girls found this useful!