Welcome to our third post in our Friendship series! Previously, we talked about how to make new friends and how to keep them. Today we’ll be talking about how to avoid drama with your friends.
Us girls often get a bad reputation as causing or adding to drama. And sometimes it’s true!
Some of us hate drama and do anything to avoid it, while some of us can’t avoid it no matter what we do and always end up inside of it. So here are some tips on how to avoid drama!
MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS
Some of us love getting involved in other people’s business, and this is often the number one source of drama. This happens with our friends a lot, since we think we have the right to know everything about them and what they’re doing. But that’s not always the case! We all have the right to keep some stuff private and share other stuff. So if your friend doesn’t share something with you, don’t go out of your way to interview her on why she didn’t tell you, or even worse, go behind her back and try to figure it out yourself. Just mind your own business!
THINK POSITIVELY ABOUT OTHERS
This is something else that can quickly create drama between you and your friends. Things happen sometimes, and we don’t always know why. But if you constantly assume the worst about the situation or about the other person, then it’s going to negatively affect your friendship. So instead of thinking that your friend doesn’t like you anymore when she asked another girl to be her partner for an assignment or project, instead think about how maybe there was a particular reason she picked the other girl. Don’t think negatively about your friend or the other girl.
KEEP THINGS TO YOURSELF
This goes back to the first point of minding your own business, but this applies more to you rather than others. When something happens to you, good or bad, your first thought might be to rush off to your closest friend and gush about it. But this can cause unnecessary drama in the heat of the moment. You might end up sharing something you wanted to keep private or you might say something you later regret. Especially if something bad happens, your first inclination would be to complain or vent about it. So just calm down and take time to process your own emotions first. Once you’re calm and know who you want to tell and how, then go ahead and share the news.
IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY, DON’T SAY IT
This rule would prevent so much drama from taking place in our lives, if only we followed it! But so many of us have no seal on our lips and feel the need to chime in whenever, wherever. If our friend is badmouthing or complaining about someone, so many of us join in and share things about that person without really meaning to. That person may have done us no harm, but we just enjoy complaining and join in when the opportunity presents itself. And then we later regret it. So instead of chiming in, just keep quiet. If someone is venting to you, let them. But don’t let it be an excuse to badmouth someone you have no reason to talk bad about.
We all know the pitfalls of doing this, yet so many of us make the mistake of doing it anyway. Some of us love gossiping so much that it’s one of our favourite pastimes. When we have nothing else to do, we gossip. Not only is it a bad habit, but it can cause so much hurt to other people. So if you hear something about someone else, whether they’re a friend or foe, keep it to yourself. Don’t pass it on. If you make the choice not to pass it not, then the malicious gossip will die and not spread further. Imagine a friend coming up to you and asking you why you told so-and-so about something, and your only answer is because someone else told you? It hurts. So no matter who told it to you, don’t pass it on.
We hope you found this post useful!