If you’re thinking about wearing hijab or even if you recently started wearing hijab, chances are you might have a few qualms about donning the hijab. Or you could be wearing hijab for years, but there are things about it that make you doubt yourself and your intentions. This diary of a full-time hijabi is here to talk about some of the struggles hijabis go through before and during wearing hijab.
You won’t be beautiful
Whether you just started wearing hijab or whether you’ve been wearing hijab for years, there still might be a part of you that thinks that hijab takes away your beauty and that there’s no way to look good in hijab. This is a common perception, both among Muslims and non-Muslims, and people often ask girls why they would want to cover themselves and diminish their beauty. In today’s society, we’re often told that less is more, especially when thinking about clothes. The less you wear, the more attractive you are. But don’t get caught up in that idea; things couldn’t be further from the truth!
Covering yourself and wearing hijab doesn’t take away from your beauty. If anything, it adds to it, because hijab symbolizes the fact that you are committed to a greater perception of beauty: God’s idea of beauty. So if you wear hijab, don’t ever, for one second, think of yourself as less beautiful.
You love fashion
If you love fashion, you might be having a tough time reconciling wearing hijab and dressing up. You might think that there’s no possible way to follow your love of fashion and stay modest, but that’s not true! There are so many things being done in the world of modest fashion and gone are the days when there were no Islamic clothes retailers. With the world of online shopping, there are so many options now for modest fashion, so that there’s nothing preventing you from looking good while wearing hijab.
Of course everyone has their own interpretations of fashion and hijab, so do some research on your own and decide what works for you. Some people think headbands and teekas are not hijab, some people think three-quarter sleeves are okay, while some people think only abayas are hijab. You need to decide what works for you and what you’re most comfortable with.
Your family is against it
This can be one of the toughest things to encounter, again, regardless of whether you’re just thinking about wearing hijab or whether you’ve been wearing it for years. Whether it’s your parents, grandparents, siblings, husband, or extended family, it can be very difficult wearing hijab when your family is against it. Families can be against hijab for several reasons; some people think it’s an extremist move, some people think it’s not necessary, while others think it will cause you unnecessary problems. Whether your family’s reasons for opposing hijab are well-meant or not, wearing hijab in such a climate can be tricky.
Have a conversation with your family. Talk to them about why you’re thinking about wearing hijab or why you do wear, and why it’s important to you. Let them know that you’re still the same person inside the hijab; you’re only slightly changing your outer appearance. Sometimes having a conversation isn’t enough, sometimes family members’ can continue to make snide comments and mock you for wearing hijab years down the road, but just have patience.
You’ll never get to style your hair
Hijab isn’t just about covering your hair, but for some girls, the hair becomes one of the biggest points of regret after wearing hijab. Yes, you won’t be able to style your hair when going out anymore, but that doesn’t mean that your hair will cease to exist! Use girls-only events as excuses to style your hair. And if you’re married, style your hair when you’re at home and with your husband. Don’t dwell on the fact that other people won’t see your hair; focus instead on the positive part, which is getting reward from Allah. And don’t forget to take care of your hair; just because other people can’t see it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take care of it! See here for some tips.
People will judge you
Whether you live in a Muslim country or not, chances are people around you will judge. They might be strangers or they might even be your family. It’s okay. We live in a world where people constantly judge, and hijab just happens to be one of those things that people have preconceived notions about. People may be wary of you and treat you differently, especially if you live in a country where hijab-wearers are sparse. Use this opportunity to educate people about Islam about hijab. I know how easy it is to fire off a snarky comment at someone who asks you a silly question, but use their question to tell them more about why you wear hijab and what it means to you. You never know, your conversation with a random stranger may one day enlighten them about the beauty of Islam!
Wearing hijab isn’t always easy, but there are immense benefits and rewards to it. There can be lots of people who oppose your decision, but it’s important to have faith and conviction in your decision to wear hijab. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re not beautiful because you wear hijab and don’t show your hair. You are so beautiful!
Hope you girls found this useful! Keep smiling.