We all have bad days. Some more than others. And sometimes we get stuck in situations that don’t just last a day. They can drag on for awhile, which can stress us or depress us. We all need cheering up.
And it can feel like we’re totally alone in our own frustration and sadness. We forget about others around us. We often become so consumed by our own problems and issues that the only thing we think about is how others can make us happy. We don’t really spend a lot of time thinking about how we can make others happy.
But this has got to change. Because in trying to make others happy lies our own happiness. Do good to others, and good will come to you, inshAllah. Do things to make your loved ones happy, not because you want something in return, but simply because you love them. And want them to be happy.
So here are 5 ways to cheer someone up. Hope you enjoy!
Sometimes all we want is for someone to listen to us. Have you noticed a friend or family member looking stressed? Have you been meaning to ask them what’s wrong but never have a chance? Take some time out of your day to really sit down with them and ask them what’s going on. Sometimes all we want is to have someone show their care and love, to be there and want to know what’s going on with us. It makes us feel less alone.
Ask them and really listen. Be that supportive listener that we so often hear about, but so rarely are. Don’t be distracted and fidgeting with your phone. Give them your undivided attention. Tell them you understand and appreciate their pain and concerns. If they ask for your advice, give it.
Many times just sharing our burden with someone else can make our shoulders feel so much lighter.
BAKE OR COOK FOR THEM
Regardless of how common bakeries are now, baking something for someone shows them that you took time and effort to do something for them. Everyone can order a cake, but it involves a different level of care to bake something.
And if baking is not your thing, how about cooking for them? Everyone loves to be taken care of and to eat their favourite comfort foods, so take some time to find out what they are and make them dinner or even breakfast. Of if you can’t sit down and have the meal with them, pack it up for them and label everything and deliver it to them. It’ll make their day.
GIVE THEM A DAY OFF
We all deserve a day off, but we don’t always get one. Because it’s not always work that keeps us busy, but our families, in addition to a whole host of other commitments. And because of our busy load, we can feel quite ragged at the end of a long week.
Find out what the person’s commitments are and try to take them on for him or her for a day. Offer to fold the laundry, cook dinner, take the kids out, etc. if they’re someone with family responsibilities. Try to lighten their load just a bit, Or just take them out for a day of fun to get their mind off things and give them a break. Sometimes a day off is just what we need to recharge our batteries.
GIVE THEM A GIFT
There’s a beautiful hadith about the benefit of exchanging gifts to increase love among one another (as narrated by Abu Hurraira). We often only reserve it for special occasions, like birthdays, anniversaries, or Eid, but there’s nothing wrong with random gifts! It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant; it could be flowers, tickets to a movie, or something else the person enjoys. It doesn’t even have to be something you buy; you could give them a message or cook them dinner or something else you’re good at doing. Giving gifts just because is another way to cheer someone up and show them they’re important to you.
WRITE THEM A NOTE
In the day and age of texting and Facebook messages, it’s so easy to just send someone a message via text and ask them how they’re doing. But if you really care, go the extra mile: write them a note or a card. The art of handwriting is still not dead and it’s again something that takes time and effort. It’s not instant. Sit down and really take a few minutes to express to your loved one how you feel. Tell them how great you think they are, how much you appreciate them, and how much you love them. If they live far from you, it’ll be nice to receive in the mail. But if they live close, hand deliver it to them. And see if they don’t smile!
We all have days when we don’t feel our best. And the way we get through them is by having those around us be there for us. We all need cheering up.
Don’t focus on what others can do for you, but instead think about what you can do for others. Try to make those around you happy. You’ll find that you’re so much happier by being selfless.
Hope you found this useful!